If you’re smashing your recovery then there’s no need to read this post.If, however, you’re struggling big time and nothing seems to be working…. then keep on reading.I’m going to be brave and ask the uncomfortable question:Are you hoping to get what you need for recovery by reading posts like these and watching YouTube videos?Look, no judgement… Continue reading Can you recover without help?
"Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”Pema Chödrön said that. And the first time I heard it I felt like screaming! "What don't I bloodie know!?"I’d tried a thousand times to recover to no avail. Therapists, meal plans, OA, kinesiology, psyllium, psilocybin - nothing worked. "What do I still need to learn… Continue reading Arrrrgh! What do I still need to learn damnit!?
If you could choose only ONE thing to focus on in the early days of bulimia recovery what would it be?Yes, abstinence from bingeing or purging is important. But focussing on those two things is akin to taking a pill for the pain - it deals with the symptoms, not the cause. There is ONE… Continue reading Forget Not Bingeing Or Purging…Focus On This Instead.
“I’m sitting with an intense desire to binge. All I want to do right now, in this moment, is give in one last time and try again tomorrow. My breathing is shallow, my heart is racing, my body is on high alert - begging me to walk back to the kitchen and just let go.… Continue reading It’s fear, not hunger…
Yesterday we chatted about how repeated 'failures' around food, weight and bulimia recovery, will erode your confidence and can paralyse you from trying again. It's no different to having your heart trampled on in a nasty break up. You'd be forgiven for not wanting to rush out and take a chance on love again. Well,… Continue reading 6 Success Principles For ED Recovery (and everything else)
It's time to take down the second biggest obstacle to long lasting recovery from bulimia or binge eating: Fear of Failing (again!) "I'd be mortified if this was just another thing that didn't work" I hear this, or a version of this all the time. I also hear, "I'm a failed anorexic" If fear of… Continue reading You Haven’t Failed At Bulimia Recovery
When I was younger my nanny called me "Mafutha" (after an elephant famous for its girth) to the great delight and guffaws of her friends! I couldn't have been more than 3 years old and it's the first memory I have of feeling 'too fat'. There's no doubt that she loved me and didn't intend to… Continue reading You big fat elephant! Ha ha ha!
If you are struggling to forgive yourself or someone who hurt you, abused you, rejected you, or ripped your heart right out and stomped on it multiple times - then this story is for you. "Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies”- Nelson MandelaI spent a good chunk of 2013 working… Continue reading On Forgiveness
How to prevent a relapse from slowing down or completely undermining your disordered eating recovery.
"I go into a zone where I just say screw the scale, I’m going to eat. And nothing can stop me." This feeling of being both IN control ("I'll do what I want") and OUT of control ("OMG, what the hell am I doing!?") at the same time, was the story of my life for twenty… Continue reading It’s like I’m possessed! Once I start I don’t stop.