If you could choose only ONE thing to focus on in the early days of bulimia recovery what would it be?Yes, abstinence from bingeing or purging is important. But focussing on those two things is akin to taking a pill for the pain - it deals with the symptoms, not the cause. There is ONE… Continue reading Forget Not Bingeing Or Purging…Focus On This Instead.
Yesterday we chatted about how repeated 'failures' around food, weight and bulimia recovery, will erode your confidence and can paralyse you from trying again. It's no different to having your heart trampled on in a nasty break up. You'd be forgiven for not wanting to rush out and take a chance on love again. Well,… Continue reading 6 Success Principles For ED Recovery (and everything else)
It's time to take down the second biggest obstacle to long lasting recovery from bulimia or binge eating: Fear of Failing (again!) "I'd be mortified if this was just another thing that didn't work" I hear this, or a version of this all the time. I also hear, "I'm a failed anorexic" If fear of… Continue reading You Haven’t Failed At Bulimia Recovery
When I was younger my nanny called me "Mafutha" (after an elephant famous for its girth) to the great delight and guffaws of her friends! I couldn't have been more than 3 years old and it's the first memory I have of feeling 'too fat'. There's no doubt that she loved me and didn't intend to… Continue reading You big fat elephant! Ha ha ha!
If you are struggling to forgive yourself or someone who hurt you, abused you, rejected you, or ripped your heart right out and stomped on it multiple times - then this story is for you. "Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies”- Nelson MandelaI spent a good chunk of 2013 working… Continue reading On Forgiveness
Late last night I received a facebook message from a wonderful gal who I know through doing a Recovery 2.0 online course with Tommy Rosen three years ago. She's a bright-eyed, bushy-tailed, gorgeous, glowing woman who was both able to be vulnerable about her own pain while compassionate and supportive of everyone else's. She was much… Continue reading Jealousy – the gorgeous little whispers about what we really want.
My mum's boyfriend is an incredible businessman who believes in the 3 Ds of success: Drive. Determination. Discipline. When it comes to my full recovery from bulimia in 2019, I have the drive and determination of a horny rhinoceros, but the discipline? The third D would appear to be sorely absent. And not just when… Continue reading Developing the third “D” – Discipline
We dream of becoming the butterfly that flutters deep within us. But what does it really mean to radically transform from a crazed caterpillar into a bold butterfly? Take fitness as an example: If I was completely unfit (which I am not, but if I was) and was to radically transform my fitness, then going… Continue reading What is “radical transformation” anyway?
2019 is the year of my metamorphosis - from hungry caterpillar to beautiful butterfly. I am 40 years old and for 24 years I have struggled with bulimia. When I was sixteen I was caught in crippling self loathing, major negative body image issues and overwhelming "not good enough" syndrome. Being fat to me, was… Continue reading The Transformation Begins